{"id":99227,"date":"2018-11-15T11:28:59","date_gmt":"2018-11-15T17:28:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=99227"},"modified":"2026-03-13T08:24:09","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T13:24:09","slug":"4-recommended-books-for-soon-to-be-and-new-dads","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/relationships\/fatherhood\/4-recommended-books-for-soon-to-be-and-new-dads\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Recommended Books for Soon-to-Be and New Dads"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Books-New-Dads-Header-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-99488 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Books-New-Dads-Header-1.jpg\" alt=\"Father reading a book while giving swings to his son.\" width=\"900\" height=\"503\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Books-New-Dads-Header-1.jpg 700w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Books-New-Dads-Header-1-320x179.jpg 320w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Books-New-Dads-Header-1-640x357.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When Kate was pregnant with our first kiddo, I wanted to do the best I could to help her out during her pregnancy, as well as prepare for being a father to Gus when he finally arrived on the scene. So I did what any 21st century dad-to-be would do: I hopped on Amazon to see what books were out there on the subject.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What I discovered was that there wasn\u2019t much useful information available for soon-to-be-fathers and new dads. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most of the books out there for new dads were short on useful information but chock-full of funny illustrations that made being a dad look comically manly, tips that implied that fathers will be natural bumblers, and one-liners about losing access to your wife\u2019s boobs since they\u2019ll be squatted on by a baby blocker. It\u2019s like they thought men were morons, couldn\u2019t imagine that a dude would be sincerely interested in prepping to be a good dad, or felt that a guy who had such an interest might feel so insecure about it that the information he sought needed to be presented in a satirically masculine, punch-you-in-the-arm style. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was eight years ago. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today, it hasn\u2019t gotten any better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Books for new dads continue to put an emphasis on eye-rolling and often condescending yuks instead of providing fathers information they can actually put into practice.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But a few useful books for soon-to-be and new dads do exist. After reviewing a whole lot of them, below I highlight 4 that I think are the best.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote style=\"border: 0px; background-color: #ffffff;\"><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Note: If you\u2019re not one to read a whole book on parenting, I think we do a really excellent job of presenting a cliff notes version of all the basics you need to know in the following articles:<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>A Man\u2019s Guide to Pregnancy<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/pregnant-wife\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Take Care of a Pregnant Wife<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/a-mans-guide-to-pregnancy-getting-ready-for-the-baby-bomb\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting Ready for the Baby Bomb<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/a-mans-guide-to-pregnancy-your-progeny-enters-the-world\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your Progeny Enters the World<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>New Dad Survival Guide<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/new-dad-survival-guide-the-skillset\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Skillset<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/new-dad-survival-guide-the-mindset\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Mindset<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3><em><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2REZk2r\">What to Expect When You&#8217;re Expecting<\/a><\/em><\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2REZk2r\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-99233\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1.jpg\" alt=\"Book cover of &quot;What to Expect when you're expecting&quot; by Heidi Murkoff.\" width=\"333\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1.jpg 1800w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-320x480.jpg 320w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-640x960.jpg 640w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-1280x1920.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-1250x1875.jpg 1250w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect1-400x600.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, it\u2019s primarily geared towards moms-to-be, but this classic baby book is jam-packed with useful information about pregnancy that an expectant dad might also want to know. From fetal development to tips on how to handle the first few months of your baby\u2019s life, a lot of the information is useful for both new parents. Throughout the book they also have callouts geared just towards dads (including how you do the sex when your wife is pregnant and how long you\u2019ll need to wait after birth before you can resume relations). I actually found this the most useful book I read as an expectant dad. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019d add that some women don\u2019t like this book because they feel that reading about so many potential problems\/symptoms creates unnecessary stress, but this is actually a good reason for you to read it too. As a dad, you\u2019ll often play the role of the more dispassionate researcher\/diagnoser, i.e., your wife will feel concerned that baby has X problem, and you\u2019ll be the one who looks into it, and offers reassurances: \u201cIt\u2019s much more likely that it\u2019s actually Y benign issue. We\u2019ll ask the doctor. Don\u2019t worry about it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2Do9phc\"><em>What to Expect the First Year<\/em><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2Do9phc\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-99236\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2.jpg\" alt=\"Book cover of &quot;What to Expect the First Year&quot; by Heidi Murkoff.\" width=\"333\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2.jpg 1707w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-320x480.jpg 320w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-640x960.jpg 640w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-1280x1920.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-1250x1875.jpg 1250w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect2-400x600.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/people\/family\/bring-baby-doctor\/\">Do you go to the doctor for that cough?<\/a> What do you do if your baby isn\u2019t sleeping? Is my baby developing normally? These are just a few of the questions that new parents will ask once they bring home their bundle of joy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A book that both Kate and I found quite useful during the first twelve months of Gus\u2019 life was <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What to Expect the First Year. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretty much any concern or question you might have during the first year of your baby\u2019s life will be addressed in this book (and it\u2019s generally best to just consult one standard source like this on such questions rather than trolling through dozens of forums filled with anecdotal stories).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All meat and no filler. Two thumbs up.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/37n4TMd\"><em>The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be<\/em><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/37n4TMd\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-99242 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect3.jpeg\" alt=\"Book cover of &quot;The Expectant Father&quot; by Armin A. Brott and Jennifer Ash.\" width=\"333\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect3.jpeg 333w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect3-320x480.jpeg 320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the probably the best book geared exclusively towards expectant fathers. No lame jokes. Just straight up useful information. <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Expectant Father <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">covers the pregnancy process and how dads can help in it, as well as provides tons of useful info for dads on raising a kid.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They also cover why dads are so important in the development of a child and how children influence fathers. After the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What to Expect<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> books, this would be the one \u201cdad-to-be\u201d book I\u2019d recommend. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2Rw83DK\"><em>Great Expectations: Becoming a Dad: The First Three Years<\/em><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2Rw83DK\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-99246 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2018\/11\/expect3.jpg\" alt=\"Book cover of &quot;Becoming a Dad The First Three Years&quot; by John C. Carr.\" width=\"314\" height=\"499\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Written by social worker and psychotherapist David Carr, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Great Expectations <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">i<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s unique in that it not only&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">covers the psychological development your new kiddo will go through during the first three years of his or her life, it gets into the transformation that will happen in <em>your<\/em> psyche too. Alongside standard practical tips, Carr offers advice on how to handle the adjustment to your new role as a father and the way your life will change once your baby arrives.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When Kate was pregnant with our first kiddo, I wanted to do the best I could to help her out during her pregnancy, as well as prepare for being a father to Gus when he finally arrived on the scene. 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