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Meeting your girlfriend\u2019s parents for the first time is a big step in a relationship. You\u2019re taking it up a notch from casual dating; you\u2019re saying that you\u2019re ready to start solidifying your couplehood by placing yourself inside of her social and familial circle and allowing them to put a face to the name. You won\u2019t be able to slink away later as an anonymous dude. You\u2019re ready to announce your interest in a lady to the most important people in her life.<\/p>\n
Thus, the experience can be a tad nerve racking. Parents are pretty protective of their daughters. They want to feel comfortable with the idea of you as a boyfriend, as possibly the future man in her life. A boyfriend can make a woman completely happy or totally wreck her life, and they want to know that it\u2019s the former. And on the flip side, your girlfriend really wants her family to like you. She wants you to shine so she can get their approval. And if she\u2019s hoping for a long-term relationship with you, she\u2019s got her fingers crossed that you’ll get along with them.<\/p>\n
So that\u2019s a lot of pressure. You\u2019re a man and you\u2019re cool under pressure, but to have that kind of confidence you have to prepare. Follow the tips below, and your girlfriend\u2019s mom will be raving about you to all her friends.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s clich\u00e9, but it\u2019s the truth: you never have a second chance to make a first impression. Your girlfriend\u2019s parents are going to be sizing you up and making assumptions about you the minute you walk through the door.<\/p>\n
Dress sharp.<\/strong> Nothing telegraphs more about your personality than your clothes. Besides your face, it\u2019s the first thing your girlfriend\u2019s parents are going to be taking in when they open the door. Even if you\u2019re just having a casual dinner at their house, look presentable and put together. It’s hard to go wrong with khakis and a nice polo shirt<\/a>. Don\u2019t wear anything too outlandish. If your clothes need ironing, iron them.<\/p>\n Bring flowers for mom. <\/strong>We instantly like people who come bearing gifts. So present mom with a classy bouquet. If you purchased the flowers from the grocery store, take a moment to remove the price tag before you get out of the car.<\/p>\n Give a friendly greeting. <\/strong>As soon as you meet the parents, look them in the eye, smile, and offer a firm handshake to both parents. Give a manly handshake<\/a>, not a dead fish. Address them as Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Do not call them by their first names until they ask you to. Even after you have met your girlfriend\u2019s parents several times, address them as Mr. and Mrs. (Last Name) until they ask you to call them by their first names.<\/p>\n Be engaged in conversations.<\/strong> One of the best ways to be charming is to act genuinely interested in people. People like others who seem interested in their lives, and they love to talk about themselves. So ask your girlfriend\u2019s parents questions and listen attentively when they talk to you. When they tell you things, ask follow-up questions to get more details. And follow the basic rules of polite conversation: avoid controversial topics, don\u2019t interrupt, don\u2019t swear, etc.<\/p>\n Give compliments.<\/strong> It\u2019s almost always a good idea to say how nice their house is. If the place is clearly a dump, then skip it, of course. Giving praise<\/a> will backfire if it\u2019s not sincere. If they cook for you, always compliment the grub. And ask for seconds, even if you\u2019re not hungry. Say something nice about your girlfriend too. Her parents raised her, so you\u2019re really complimenting them at the same time. Naturally, you should never overdo it with the praise. There’s a big difference between being a kiss-up and being polite.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t act nervous.<\/strong> Even if you are. Much of how we judge a man is related to his confidence and bearing. Even if her dad intimidates you, and is clearly sizing you up, don\u2019t act intimidated. Look him right back in the eye. Speak clearly and articulately. You\u2019ll never gain his manly respect by staring at your shoes and breaking out in a sweat. And if you appear shifty, the parents may assume you have something to hide.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re spending the night with your girlfriend\u2019s parents, be sure to follow the rules of being a polite houseguest<\/a>. In addition, remember to follow some additional guidelines:<\/p>\n Be prepared to sleep in separate rooms.<\/strong> Even if you and your girlfriend currently live together, if her parents want you to sleep in separate rooms, then do so without complaint or comment. You\u2019re in their house and should follow their rules. If you are given a sleeping bag and asked to sleep on the sofa, do so happily.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t walk around in your skivvies. <\/strong>Don\u2019t come to breakfast in your BVDs. Always bring a t-shirt and pajamas pants with you so that if you’re woken in the night or they walk in on you in the morning, mom’s not going to get an eyeful of your man junk.<\/p>\n How you leave your girlfriend\u2019s parent’s house is just as important as how you enter. Leave them thinking happy thoughts about you.<\/p>\n Give them a nice goodbye.<\/strong> When you\u2019re leaving, thank your girlfriend\u2019s parents for your visit. Tell them what a pleasure it was to meet them. Shake hands again. If mom goes in for the hug, give her a good one.<\/p>\n Write a thank you note.<\/strong> If it was a brief meeting, this is not necessary. But if they made you dinner or you stayed at their house, write them a thank you note.<\/a> If you were an overnight guest, you can do this while still in their home; leave the note on your bed or the kitchen counter. So you might want to bring some stationery<\/a> with you.<\/p>\n Any other advice for meeting your girlfriend’s parents for the first time? Leave a comment.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Many thanks to AoM reader and mother of two daughters, Leslie Tincher for the idea for this post and much of the material for it. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Meeting your girlfriend\u2019s parents for the first time is a big step in a relationship. 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Be a Good Houseguest<\/h3>\n
Leave a Good Impression<\/h3>\n