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Editor’s Note: This a guest post by John Corcoran.<\/em><\/p>\n Last year, AoM published a thorough guide on How to Network Effectively<\/a>, written by Antonio. As he always does, Antonio crafted the definitive resource for how to prepare for and execute a night of networking and socializing.<\/p>\n But even if you already love networking and have enough personal style, charisma, and wit to put Ryan Gosling to shame, you might struggle with what comes next: the follow-up. What happens after<\/i> you attend a networking or social mixer can make the difference between a productive evening and a complete waste of time.<\/p>\n Many men have trouble following through on and nurturing relationships established at these types of networking events. It\u2019s not easy to approach people who you might have spoken with for only a few minutes before exchanging business cards and moving on. Even though it might be convenient to blame the networker, the problem is usually not with the person. The problem is the system, or lack thereof.<\/p>\n Although most people understand the important role networking and socializing can play in a career or a business, very few people put in place a methodic system for following up with the people they meet during an evening of networking and socializing. In fact, many just drop the ball entirely and never follow up at all.<\/p>\n Michael Port, a bestselling author and business coach, says having a strategy for keeping in touch with contacts you meet \u201cmay be the most important marketing strategy you\u2019ll ever use.\u201d In Book Yourself Solid<\/i><\/a>, Port suggests taking the time to create a system for keeping in touch. \u201cIf you don\u2019t have a systematized and automated Keep in Touch Strategy in place, you may, as the old saying goes, leave a lot of business on the table.\u201d<\/p>\n Those who hate networking the most are usually the worst at following up. If you get sweaty palms just thinking about entering a room full of people you don\u2019t know, I\u2019ll bet you are the type who neglects the follow through entirely. That\u2019s actually the worst thing you can do. Not following up just means you\u2019ll have to haul yourself back out on the cocktail circuit again and again and again.<\/p>\n The solution is also not more networking<\/i>. Spending more time networking without a follow-up system in place is like bailing water from a leaking ship — it will keep you afloat in the short term, but eventually your ship will sink. A better choice is to implement a better system.<\/p>\n Your business or career may even depend on it. Port argues that many businesses have failed simply because they didn\u2019t have a strategy for checking in and keeping in touch with contacts and clients.<\/p>\n When Keith Ferrazzi was growing up, he caddied at a local country club in the wealthy town next door to his own. During those long outings, he had ample time to observe how successful and wealthy members of the country club treated one another. \u201cThey found one another jobs, they invested time and money in one another\u2019s ideas, and they made sure their kids got help getting into the best schools, got the right internships and ultimately got the best jobs,\u201d says Ferrazzi. In other words, Ferrazzi saw that the very successful were invested in a spirit of service to one another.<\/p>\n In Never Eat Alone<\/a>, <\/i>Ferrazzi writes that the country club provided him \u201cwith a simple but profound lesson about the power of generosity. When you help others, they often help you.\u201d<\/p>\n If you struggle with following up, the best approach is to think of your follow-ups with a spirit of generosity. Your goal is not to follow up with people you met because you want to get something from them; you are following up so you can help them, just like the successful members of the country club helped one another.<\/p>\n In the rest of this article, I\u2019ll lay out a system for following up and maintaining contact with people you meet at networking and social events. I have broken down the system into three phases:<\/p>\n Let\u2019s assume you just attended a social or networking event, and you met a number of men and women. You can see some potential business or career value to keeping in touch with the people you met. In other words, it wasn\u2019t a Burning Man meetup and you didn\u2019t just get back from Comic-Con, but you actually see business value to further developing these relationships.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what you should do immediately:<\/p>\n 1. Take Notes About The People You Met<\/b><\/p>\n Immediately after an event, I will jot down a few quick notes about the people I met. Usually I will write these notes directly on the back of the business cards I collected. It\u2019s important to do this that evening or the next morning while the conversations are still fresh in your mind.<\/p>\n I like writing down any personal details I learned about the person, such as his spouse\u2019s name and his childrens’ names and ages if he has any, and any likes or dislikes or hobbies, such as favorite foods. You never know when this information may come in handy in the future.<\/p>\n 2. Send Memorable First Emails Within 24 Hours<\/b><\/p>\n The second step is to send memorable follow-up emails. For this first email, you want to demonstrate that you are thoughtful, reliable, and consistent. Just as you will have put in effort to make a good impression at the event itself, you should also make a good impression in your first email. That means you should make sure there are no typos or spelling errors, run-on sentences, clumsy hit-ons, or off-color jokes.<\/p>\n Even though email can be a more casual form of communication, that does not mean it is acceptable for your email to sound like it came from a tween sending texts from the mall food court.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what your first email should not<\/i> look like:<\/p>\n Hi Mike:<\/p>\n It was great meeting you, hopefully we\u2019ll run into one another again. Keep in touch. I LOL\u2019d all night – your so funny!<\/p>\n –Joe<\/p><\/blockquote>\n A better approach is to follow up on a topic you discussed when you met. Here is a better first email:<\/p>\n Hey Mike: It was great meeting with you, and talking about your burger business\u2019s dilemma with re-branding itself.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve thought more about it, and I think Avalanche Burgers would be a good new name. I saw a statistic recently that 50% of consumers prefer to purchase from a business with a sense of humor, and the fact that your burger joint is attached to a ski resort suggests you have a sense of humor about the threat of avalanches. I also asked my wife what she thought and she says Avalanche Burgers sounds \u201cvery cute.”<\/p>\n I have a cousin who works for a branding firm in Chicago. I\u2019m happy to ask him for his input as well. Just let me know.<\/p>\n Good luck as you weigh your decision.<\/p>\n — Joe<\/p><\/blockquote>\n You can see how much more memorable that email is. Here\u2019s why this follow-up works:<\/p>\n This second email would take just a little more time than the first, and yet it demonstrates how useful Joe would be as a member of Mike\u2019s extended network. Joe wants Mike to think, “N<\/em>ow this is the kind of guy I want to get to know better.”<\/i><\/p>\n 3. Send a Handwritten Note<\/strong><\/p>\n If you really want to make a great impression, send a handwritten note on nice stationery<\/a>. I received a handwritten note as a thank you from someone I had met recently and I can say it made a big impression on me. I would still send an email anyways, however, so that you demonstrate immediate follow-through, and so it\u2019s easy to connect via email again in the future.<\/p>\n 4. Connect on Social Media<\/b><\/p>\n The next step is to connect with the person on LinkedIn. Once I am connected with someone on LinkedIn, I know I am less likely to lose touch with them and they will be reminded of me every time I post something to LinkedIn. It\u2019s a great tool for remaining \u201ctop of mind\u201d with people in your extended network.<\/p>\n I have a simple, free browser extension called Rapportive<\/a> installed in my browser so when I start to compose an email in my Gmail account to a person, I see a snapshot of that person\u2019s social media profiles on the right side of my “compose” window.<\/p>\n This great tool allows me to learn a little more about the person, and I can quickly connect on LinkedIn or other social media services in one click.<\/p>\n After the initial follow-up, it\u2019s very easy to lose contact. So the next step is to create a practice of following up on a regular interval, i.e. every 30 days or every 90 days, or even every six months. You can decide whatever interval is comfortable, but be sure to stick to it. The point is to make sure you don\u2019t let so much time go by that the relationship goes cold.<\/p>\n The next step is to make sure<\/em> you follow up with that person. This is one of the hardest parts of the follow-up process to manage.<\/p>\n You can go cheap on this strategy by trying to remember to follow up, although chances are contacts will fall through the cracks. Another option is to add reminders in your calendar, but that can be very labor intensive.<\/p>\n I recently started experimenting with an online service<\/a> that allows me to categorize people based on how frequently I want to follow up with them, i.e. every 30 days, every 60 days, every 6 months, etc. While it isn\u2019t totally necessary to use such a service, you may find as I have that the benefit outweighs the cost. There are plenty of other customer relationship management (CRM) services that you can use.<\/p>\n The most important thing, whether you use a paid service or not, is to make sure relationships don\u2019t go stale. Make sure 6 or 12 months don\u2019t go by without you checking in with people who are important to your business or career. They will forget about you.<\/p>\n One of the hardest parts about following up with people who you still don\u2019t know all that well is finding excuses for contacting that person without sounding like you are a used car salesman.<\/p>\n A few weeks ago, I got a voicemail completely out of the blue from a business broker I had met a year earlier. In his voicemail, he actually said he was calling to see if I had \u201cany business for him\u201d in the form of clients of mine who might want to sell their business. I felt used, like he had no interest in me at all, only in what I could provide for him. There are a number of excuses he could have used for calling out of the blue, but calling to ask if I<\/i> had any business for him <\/i>was not a good approach. Needless to say, I didn\u2019t return the call.<\/p>\n Here are a few ways you can follow up without sounding like you\u2019re only in it for you:<\/p>\n 1. Send An Informative Article, a Blog Post, or a Book<\/b><\/p>\n One of the easiest and most effective excuses for contacting a person is because you want to share an article, blog post, or book that you think might be valuable to that person. This piece of content could relate to their business or profession, or it could easily relate to a passion, hobby, or family member.<\/p>\n For example, if I know a person\u2019s daughter is about to start a new job after graduating from college, I might send that person an article I read on how to ace your first day and week at a new job<\/a>. Oftentimes, demonstrating your thoughtfulness as to that person\u2019s beloved family members is a way of forming a stronger personal bond with them.<\/p>\n 2. Make an Introduction<\/b><\/p>\n Another strategy I love to use, especially with people I just met, is to introduce the new person to someone else I know. People love relevant introductions, especially when the introduction can help them in their business or career. What\u2019s more, if the two people really hit it off, they will always remember you were the person who introduced them.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s an example:<\/p>\n Hey Jim:<\/p>\n I’m cc’ing by way of introduction Phil Mitchell, who I met last night at a Chamber of Commerce mixer. Phil is a business coach in San Francisco focusing on software startups. It turns out Phil is also a huge Cubs fan so you two have something in common.<\/p>\n Phil: Jim lives down the street from me, and our sons are in preschool together. Jim is the founder of a startup called Pets.com that I think is going to be the biggest thing since sliced bread. I thought you two would get along so that\u2019s why I\u2019m making the introduction.<\/p>\n Best,<\/p>\n John<\/p><\/blockquote>\n NOTE to self: I should definitely never be a venture capitalist. <\/i><\/p>\n 3. Invite the Person to a Free or Comped Event<\/b><\/p>\n Free or comped events are a great excuse for getting back in touch later. For example, I got an email recently from a woman I know, inviting me to a small panel discussion she thought would be of interest. She was a board member for the sponsoring organization, so she offered me a complimentary ticket.<\/p>\n The key here is the event has to be (A) free or paid for, and (B) relevant or useful to the person you just met. If you try to get the person you just met to buy a ticket <\/i>to some event you are promoting, you will probably only annoy that person.<\/p>\n 4. Mention the Person in your Writing<\/b><\/p>\n Another great way to make an impression is by mentioning the person you met, or their company, in a blog post or a YouTube video. For example, Antonio included a photograph of him and Tom Julian, one of his favorite men\u2019s style authors, in his How to Network Effectively<\/a> post. This is a perfect example of how to create an excuse for further contact. As an author, I\u2019m sure Mr. Julian was grateful to Antonio for mentioning him on such a wildly popular and high-traffic blog.<\/p>\n The final step is to deepen your relationships over the long-term. Your goal should be to move the people you meet up the ladder to deeper and more meaningful relationships.<\/p>\n Before you start deepening relationships, you should first ask yourself some tough questions about with whom you want to further relationships.<\/p>\n Determine Which People for Deeper Relationships<\/b><\/p>\n Even though you should approach networking with a philosophy of helping others first, you still want those who you help to be in a position to one day repay the favor.<\/p>\n I recommend writing out an actual list of 50+ people who you most want to get to know better over the next 12 months. Having to sit down and create this list may even help create greater clarity as to your business and career goals. The list may include everyone from celebrities to CEOs to colleagues and current or past clients or customers. Every once in a while, you should revisit this list and decide if there are any people who should be added or removed.<\/p>\n Choose What In-Person Events to Use<\/b><\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve determined who you want to deepen relationships with, you should start reaching out to meet for lunch, coffee, or a drink. This is a great way to get to know the person better than you probably did in your initial meeting.<\/p>\n There are an infinite number of different types of in-person events you could engage in — lunches, coffees, drinks, dinners, sporting events — but you should choose carefully. If you don\u2019t naturally like networking, then be sure you don\u2019t put yourself in a situation that will make it more uncomfortable. If you\u2019re not athletic, don\u2019t get roped into a golf game. If you hate drinking, don\u2019t meet someone for a happy hour at a bar. If you are great at one-on-one meetings, then perhaps a quiet lunch at an out-of-the-way cafe would be best. Play to your strengths.<\/p>\n Which industry you are in is also going to make a difference as to what events are appropriate. Here are a few ideas:<\/p>\n Bring a Small Gift<\/b><\/p>\n For bonus points, bring a small gift to give to your recipient when you meet. A gift, however small, can make a huge impression. When Michael Fishman, a marketing advisor and consultant, set up an initial lunch meeting with Ramit Sethi, the popular blogger and bestselling author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich<\/em>, he brought along an obscure, out-of-print book as a gift. Breakthrough Advertising <\/i>by Eugene Schwartz sells for around $100 on eBay – a fact which Sethi didn\u2019t know at the time<\/a>.<\/p>\n Sethi was so impressed by the gesture that when Fishman later asked Sethi to speak at a conference Fishman was organizing, Sethi agreed to waive his standard $20,000 fee.<\/p>\n When you offset the price of the book, that one small gift saved Fishman $19,900. Not too bad for a used book.<\/p>\n Send Thank You Emails After Your Meeting<\/b><\/p>\n After you\u2019ve met, send a follow-up email or note thanking the person for meeting with you, no matter who you met. Whether the person is CEO of a Fortune 500 company or unemployed, they gave up their time to meet with you, and thanking them aligns with the spirit of service we are seeking to achieve.<\/p>\n The final thought I want to leave you with is to constantly think about how you can improve your follow-up system. Your system should be fluid, just like relationships are fluid. Most of all, proceed with a positive attitude and spirit of helping others, and you should have no trouble developing deeper and more meaningful relationships.<\/p>\n What are your tips for following up after you meet someone new at a networking event? Share them with us in the comments! <\/b><\/em><\/p>\n _________________________________________<\/p>\n John Corcoran<\/i><\/a> is an attorney, former Clinton White House Writer, and blogger at <\/i>SmartBusinessRevolution.com<\/i>, where he writes about how to use political strategies and tactics in business. You can download his free ebook, \u201c<\/i>10 Ways to Use Secret Political Strategies and Tactics to Grow Your Business<\/i><\/a>.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Editor’s Note: This a guest post by John Corcoran. Last year, AoM published a thorough guide on How to Network Effectively, written by Antonio. 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Approach Follow-Ups with a Philosophy of Service<\/b><\/h3>\n
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Add Follow-Up Reminders<\/b><\/h3>\n
How to Follow Up & Add Value<\/b><\/h3>\n
How to Deepen your Relationships Over the Long-Term<\/b><\/h3>\n
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Constantly Re-evaluate Your Approach<\/b><\/h3>\n