{"id":29674,"date":"2013-01-21T13:30:53","date_gmt":"2013-01-21T19:30:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/artofmanliness.com\/?p=29674"},"modified":"2021-06-04T11:44:36","modified_gmt":"2021-06-04T16:44:36","slug":"trust-your-gut-lessons-learned-from-haguenau-and-macy-falls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/character\/manhood\/trust-your-gut-lessons-learned-from-haguenau-and-macy-falls\/","title":{"rendered":"Trust Your Gut: Lessons Learned from Haguenau and Macy Falls"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I was hiking down a steep trail near Macy Falls when a cougar snarled and leapt toward my left ear.<\/p>\n<p>I remember the date exactly. It was Saturday, May 14, 2011, and the beast lunged from behind me and above. I spun to glimpse yellow fur and fangs heading straight toward my face. The brute bounced off my shoulder and hightailed it into the forest.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when the real problems began. Knocked off kilter, I scrambled to keep my balance on the narrow trail. To my right was a 75-foot drop onto rocks at the bottom of the falls. My feet slipped and I crashed to my side, hands flailing at weeds.<\/p>\n<p>This was cougar country. One had been spotted only a week earlier. But now, having caught my balance again, I could see more clearly in the distance that the beast that had barreled into me wasn\u2019t a cougar after all. It was just a big stupid dog. It was off-leash on an on-leash trail, and charging recklessly through the undergrowth.<\/p>\n<p>The dog\u2019s owner rounded a bend. A jogger, he offered a casual head nod my direction and whistled for Fido.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when my mind snapped.<\/p>\n<p>Instantly, I was caught in a blind fury\u2014one of those ferocious road-rage-type of angers. The carelessness of the man! The arrogance! I scrambled to my feet, shouted the worst profanity that flashed through my mind, and charged up the trail. The irresponsible dog owner was already around the next bend, but all I could think was to catch up with him and exact revenge. I wanted to hit the man.<\/p>\n<p>I literally planned to break the dog owner\u2019s nose with my fist.<\/p>\n<p><b>Hang onto that scene for a moment, will you?<\/b> Hang onto it, and ask yourself if you\u2019ve ever been in a similar predicament, where you\u2019ve lost your cool.<\/p>\n<p>It happens to the best of men. An emotion enters your body so strongly that it actually takes charge. You stop thinking logically and respond with a knee-jerk. You act from your gut, not your rational mind.<\/p>\n<p>Often, we berate ourselves for losing our cool. That\u2019s the only response we can think of, because it\u2019s our default, the one we use most frequently on ourselves. We talk to ourselves with an inner voice of disapproval. We tell ourselves to snap out of it or to stop being such an idiot. We chide ourselves to get control, toughen up, or to not let ourselves get so bent out of shape.<\/p>\n<p>But, really, there are two better questions that a self-aware man needs to ask himself in these times. The first is how to act appropriately during those times of intensity. The second is the trickier question, yet in many ways the more needful one, and the question we examine in this article.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s <i>why.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>See, your intense response is only a symptom of a deeper stressor within you. By asking why you are acting so intensely, you dig to the cause. And then you can address the real reason for the intense behavior, and solve the deeper issue.<\/p>\n<p>Getting to the cause is key. There\u2019s an explanation why your gut has provoked you to take this type of action. There\u2019s wisdom within your gut\u2019s response. And your wise gut\u2014however irrational, out of character, or strange a behavior it\u2019s provoked\u2014needs to be listened to.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, trust your gut.<\/p>\n<p>Let me explain this idea further, this idea of trusting your intuition even if it provokes you to extreme action, and let me do so by using a war story.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/\/2013\/01\/bob.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-29945 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/\/2013\/01\/bob.jpg\" alt=\"Vintage WW-II soldier looking over river and town Hagen au. \" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2013\/01\/bob.jpg 500w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2013\/01\/bob-320x180.jpg 320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><b>In early February 1945, the men of E Company,<\/b> 506<sup>th<\/sup> PIR, 101<sup>st<\/sup> A\/B, (the elite company of paratroopers commonly known as the Band of Brothers), came off the line in the frozen forests near Bastogne and were sent to hold the line at Haguenau, a 20,000-resident-city that sat astride the Moder River.<\/p>\n<p>Usually the city sat within French borders. But Germany had seized it a few years earlier and had clutched it throughout WWII. Allied troops retook it in early 1945. They camped in the town on one side of the river, while enemy troops camped on the other.<\/p>\n<p>Sporadic shells flew across the Moder River, but other than that, not much action was seen in Haguenau during that time. Both sides knew that the war was winding down, and the biggest thought of the Allied veterans, at least the ones I\u2019ve interviewed, was cautious hope. Maybe they were actually going to make it through the war alive. Nobody wanted to do anything stupid.<\/p>\n<p>In mid-February, 1945, Colonel Robert Sink, the respected and capable commander of the 506<sup>th<\/sup> PIR, ordered his men to conduct a small combat patrol across the river to capture enemy prisoners for interrogation.<\/p>\n<p>It was no easy task. It meant about 20 men needed to silently paddle boats across the river at night, advance upon a well-defended position with established fields of fire, capture enemy troops alive, then bring the prisoners back to headquarters for questioning.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_29946\" style=\"width: 243px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/\/2013\/01\/jackson.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-29946\" class=\"wp-image-29946 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2013\/01\/jackson.jpg\" alt=\"WW-II private Eugene Jackson 101 airborne band of brothers.\" width=\"233\" height=\"228\"\/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-29946\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Private Eugene Jackson<\/p><\/div>\n<p>The patrol worked. Under the cover of darkness, the men slipped across the frosty river, blasted into the enemy fortifications, snatched two Nazis, and came back triumphant. But the price for the allied troops was costly: Private Eugene Jackson, age 19, took grenade fragments to his face and head.<\/p>\n<p>His friends rushed him back across the river. Jackson was bleeding heavily, crazed with pain from a piece of burning hot metal lodged in his skull, and screaming, \u201cKill me! Somebody kill me! Oh Christ, I can\u2019t stand the pain!\u201d He twitched for 20 or 30 feet but died before reaching the aid station.<\/p>\n<p>There was another complicating factor that the vets I\u2019ve interviewed all point to. Overall, the mission was pretty much useless. What sort of important, war-changing secrets were two random German soldiers going to disclose under interrogation? That they\u2019d had cold coffee and stale bread for breakfast? That\u2019s why the next day, when orders came from upper brass that an identical patrol was planned for that night, the men were downright furious.<\/p>\n<p>A second patrol? Why?!<\/p>\n<p>Compounding problems was that an icy snow had fallen overnight along the river. The enemy would be able to hear the allied troops coming a long way off. It was a suicide mission with no strong benefit. But orders were orders.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_29948\" style=\"width: 360px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/\/2013\/01\/winters1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-29948\" class=\"wp-image-29948 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2013\/01\/winters1.jpg\" alt=\"Captain Dick Winters band of brothers military portrait. \" width=\"350\" height=\"430\"\/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-29948\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Captain Dick Winters<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Acting on Colonel Sink\u2019s command, Captain Dick Winters was in charge of organizing the second patrol, just like he had the first. Winters told the men to be ready at the assigned hour.<\/p>\n<p>The men all ten-hupped when Winters met them in a dank basement of an abandoned house to go over details. The captain returned their salute, took off his helmet, and rubbed his forehead with his hands.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHere\u2019s what I want you to do,\u201d Captain Winters said in a husky whisper. \u201cGet some sleep. In the morning you will report to me that you made it across the river but were unable to secure any live prisoners. Understand?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A few eyebrows lifted. A few grins twitched. \u201cYes sir,\u201d someone finally said.<\/p>\n<p>The second patrol never happened. Captain Dick Winters had his reasons. Good, logical, well-thought out reasons. But the move also contained traces of wild irrationality. Of going against sound character. Winters, one of the finest fighting men of WWII, was directly disobeying an order. He wrote out a bogus report and presented it to Colonel Sink.<\/p>\n<p>You need to realize how serious this was.<\/p>\n<p>Not only that, but if Winters\u2019 men were grumbling about going on another mission, you wouldn\u2019t expect a wartime captain to respond with compassion. You\u2019d expect the captain to tell his men to toughen up\u2014that\u2019s what normally happened in the military. An officer would berate his men for grousing in the face of duty. He would talk to them with a voice of disapproval and tell them to snap out of it and get on with their work.<\/p>\n<p>But Winters did none of that. He was able to step back and see the bigger picture. He saw that there was deeper and wiser reasoning that needed to be heeded.<\/p>\n<p>Winters\u2019 actions can be summed up by one phrase \u2026<\/p>\n<p>He trusted his gut.<\/p>\n<p><b>Okay, let\u2019s return to the first story, <\/b>my severe fury on the trail to Macy Falls. Here\u2019s how it played out.<\/p>\n<p>There I was, running after a dog owner, getting ready to hit him. My strong knee-jerk reaction, uncharacteristic of me, was a pointer to some deeper truth within me. I was overly angry, and there must have been a reason. That\u2019s what my gut was trying to tell me. And that deeper reason is what I needed to dig to if I was ever going to move forward.<\/p>\n<p>Deep down, this is what was truly happening in my life:<\/p>\n<p>The date is key. I remember the date exactly because a week earlier, on Sunday, May 8, 2011, my sweet wife had miscarried. The date of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/people\/family\/how-a-man-handles-a-miscarriage\/\">miscarriage<\/a> acted as a double whammy. It proved to be the most horrible day a miscarriage could happen to any woman.<\/p>\n<p>Mother\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n<p>And the name of the place I was hiking to\u2014Macy Falls\u2014that also was key. It\u2019s a name that can\u2019t be found on any map.<\/p>\n<p>See, these falls had become a special place for me. Weeks earlier, when my wife was still pregnant, I had hiked to this place of beauty to think through naming our daughter. And \u201cMacy\u201d was one of our top choices.<\/p>\n<p>When Macy\u2019s birth was no more, I had named the falls in her honor. I had named them only to myself. And I was hiking to the falls\u2014this sacred place of remembrance\u2014to grieve.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why the dog barreling into me was such a jarring interruption. That\u2019s why I snapped with such fury\u2014because I was operating on backlash. And that\u2019s why the dog owner, while surely needing to take responsibility for his dog, absolutely felt a disproportionate amount of my wrath.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what my gut was trying to tell me.<\/p>\n<p>That I was deeply shaken.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of berating myself, I needed to have compassion on myself, listen to what was going on inside me, and respond accordingly. Maybe that would be fury. Just so long as I didn\u2019t break the other guy\u2019s jaw.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of telling myself to \u201ctoughen up,\u201d I needed to call off the second patrol.<\/p>\n<p><b>Fortunately, there are two happy endings<\/b> to the Macy Falls story.<\/p>\n<p>The first is that when I caught up to the dog owner on the trail, we were able to have a good, sound discussion, not a fist fight. I asked him to keep tighter control over his animal, which he agreed to, and I apologized for unleashing a string of profanity, because that\u2019s not how I want to treat any man. We were neighbors, after all, neighbors in the same journey of humanity.<\/p>\n<p>The second is that my wife and I, although greatly saddened, weren\u2019t destroyed by those difficult experiences with the miscarriage. We continued on. But I\u2019ll save that story for another article.<\/p>\n<p>The bigger question is how will you respond the next time you find yourself acting out of character.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you find yourself swerving around another driver on the freeway while flipping him the bird. That\u2019s not like you, normally. So, do you scold yourself later for being such an idiot, or do you ask yourself what\u2019s truly going on? Why are you so on edge that someone can push you to act so dangerously?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you find yourself lashing out at your wife or best friend. You love this person, but still you\u2019re harsh. Do you call yourself names and go get drunk in an act of self-destruction? Or do you probe deeper and ask why?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you normally safeguard your life online. But in a moment of illogic, you make a split second decision and click on a site filled with garbage. Afterward, you may be filled with self-loathing. But will you also go beyond that to peel back the layers to discover the real motivations for this uncharacteristic behavior?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what your gut tells you. It points to what\u2019s truly happening in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Listen to its voice.<\/p>\n<p>Your gut is wiser than you think.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Do you typically trust your gut or ignore it? When was the last time you acted out of character, and how did you respond to yourself afterward? Upon reflection, what was the real reason you were acting so intensely?&nbsp;<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>_______________________<\/p>\n<p><em>Marcus Brotherton is a regular contributor to Art of Manliness. Read his blog, <\/em>Men Who Lead Well<em>, at: <\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.marcusbrotherton.com\/\"><em>www.marcusbrotherton.com<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was hiking down a steep trail near Macy Falls when a cougar snarled and leapt toward my left ear. I remember the date exactly. It was Saturday, May 14, 2011, and the beast lunged from behind me and above. I spun to glimpse yellow fur and fangs heading straight toward my face. 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