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Not long ago, the primary concern people had about boys was that they were wild, impulsive, and out of control \u2014 getting into fights, pushing limits, and stirring up trouble. Today, the problem has flipped. The more common challenge isn\u2019t reckless behavior, but inert passivity. More and more young men are anxious, apathetic, socially isolated, and seemingly uninterested in doing much of anything at all.<\/p>\n

Vince Benevento, the founder of Causeway Collaborative \u2014 a male-specific counseling center \u2014 and the author of Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons for the Lost American Male<\/em><\/a>, has spent nearly two decades working on the front lines of this shift. As a therapist, coach, and mentor who specializes in helping young men between the ages of 14 and 30, Vince has worked with both the combustible and the checked-out and developed a clear, experience-honed framework for what actually helps guys get unstuck, take ownership of their lives, and move forward with purpose.<\/p>\n

In today\u2019s conversation, we unpack what Vince has learned through years of work with boys and men, and how his approach \u2014 which is rooted more in action than in talk \u2014 can be applied not just in the therapist\u2019s office, but by parents and mentors. We dig into why traditional therapy often fails young men, and how to give them the drive, accountability, and sense of connection they crave. We discuss the importance of teaching young men to build life \u201cbrick by brick” and helping them find their wild, their thing, and a good group of friends.<\/p>\n

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