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It often seems like we live in a very inconsiderate, indifferent, and ill-mannered time and that the cure for what ails our abrasive and disjointed relations is a lot more politeness. But my guest would say that what we really need is a revival of civility<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Today on the show, Alexandra Hudson \u2014 author of The Soul of Civility: Timeless Principles to Heal Society and Ourselves<\/em><\/a> \u2014 explains the difference between politeness and civility, and how being civil can actually require being impolite. We discuss how civility ensures the health of democracy, and good government relies on citizens’ ability to govern themselves and check each other, which may require acting a little like . . . Larry David. We talk about what Homer’s Odyssey<\/em> can teach us about the art of hospitality, the relationship between civility and integrity, and more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It often seems like we live in a very inconsiderate, indifferent, and ill-mannered time and that the cure for what ails our abrasive and disjointed relations is a lot more politeness. But my guest would say that what we really need is a revival of civility. 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