{"id":125067,"date":"2020-09-15T08:54:29","date_gmt":"2020-09-15T13:54:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=125067"},"modified":"2021-09-25T07:49:04","modified_gmt":"2021-09-25T12:49:04","slug":"a-lesson-from-tr-taft-on-pursuing-a-life-you-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/character\/manhood\/a-lesson-from-tr-taft-on-pursuing-a-life-you-like\/","title":{"rendered":"A Lesson From TR &#038; Taft on Pursuing a Life You Like"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-125078\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/taft-2.jpg\" alt=\"theodore roosevelt and william howard taft colorized photo. \" width=\"700\" height=\"525\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/taft-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/taft-2-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/taft-2-320x240.jpg 320w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/taft-2-640x480.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m in the midst of a project to read a biography of every president. With most of the men, there\u2019s a pretty clear sense that they were glad to give up the office after their term. It\u2019s an exhausting job in which the Oval Office occupant is relentlessly attacked by his opponents, and sometimes by his own party. Even the great acts of the presidency \u2014 the Louisiana Purchase, the Emancipation Proclamation, the New Deal, just to name a few \u2014 were reviled by the partisans of the era. It\u2019s a tough job.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But Theodore Roosevelt <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">loved<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> it. He reveled in just about every aspect of the job and found his White House years to be the most fulfilling of his life. Rather than seeming haggard and worn out at the end of his 7.5 years in office, as all presidents before and since appear to be, he was still brimming with energy and enthusiasm for politics. Like no other man who\u2019s held the office, Roosevelt was perfectly suited for the job of being POTUS.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He could have sought a third term, but made a promise after the 1904 election to give someone else a shot at the top job. Where other politicians have reneged on similar promises, Roosevelt was unquestionably a man of his word. Of course it helped that he had a protege to take up the mantle after he was gone; he had long been preparing William Howard Taft to follow in his footsteps.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So on March 4, 1909, Theodore stood to the side while Taft took the oath of office. He would have a very different experience leading the nation in what ended up being a prime example of someone being perfectly <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">un<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">suited for their job.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_125070\" style=\"width: 444px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-125070\" class=\"wp-image-125070 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/mw239481.jpg\" alt=\"william howard taft portrait as president. \" width=\"434\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/mw239481.jpg 434w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/mw239481-320x442.jpg 320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 434px) 100vw, 434px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-125070\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">William Howard Taft as President of the United States.<\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know anything about Taft, \u201cWill\u201d to his friends and family, it\u2019s the bathtub story. The nation\u2019s largest president once got stuck in a White House bathtub \u2014 or so you\u2019ve heard. The reality is that Taft knew he was a big guy, eventually tipping the scales at well over 300 pounds, and had extra large tubs installed once he took residence. So forget that story and instead learn a few things about the real Taft \u2014 the affable guy who Roosevelt dearly loved and relied on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even as a child, William Taft was a lovable creature. \u201cIt was very hard for anybody to be near him without loving him,\u201d said younger brother Horace. He was always popular, but less in a charismatic way than in an incredibly genial, huggable way. Will disliked debate and criticism, loved deep thought, and was slow, but remarkably deliberate, in his actions. Taft pursued the law, which seemed to be the perfect career match for his temperament (courtrooms are less theatrical than they\u2019re often portrayed on TV, and that was especially true a century back).&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In his late twenties, after being awarded his first local judgeship, Taft set some high ambitions for his life. He wanted to be a Supreme Court justice \u2014 <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chief<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Justice to be more specific. His natural inclinations towards genial relationships, measured decisions, and an intellectual life lined up especially well with being a judge. For him, a day on the bench using his intellect followed by a quiet evening at home in his library was far preferred to knocking elbows with other politicians and taking on party bosses in the court of public opinion.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">William Taft did the job as well as any judge could, eventually working his way up to a federal judgeship. In <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1416547878\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1416547878&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=stucosuccess&amp;linkId=FSXA3GZUT5SFDAZ4\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bully Pulpit<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Doris Kearns Goodwin writes that \u201cNo one on the circuit was more widely respected or better loved than Taft.\u201d He was a content man and well on his way to earning a Supreme Court nomination.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But Will married an intensely ambitious woman, Nellie, who yearned for the White House. Sure, the Supreme Court would be nice, but it wasn\u2019t the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">most<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> prestigious or glorified position \u2014 it was not the very highest echelon of American achievement. There was only one job which could satisfy that goal: President of the United States.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taft dearly loved his wife and had a clear weakness when it came to being overly influenced by those around him, so when President William McKinley offered Taft the governorship of the Philippines in 1901, he took it. It would be a better stepping stone to political advancement than continuing on the bench.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But McKinley was assassinated shortly afterwards. Theodore Roosevelt, a good friend of Will\u2019s, ascended to the presidency, knowing that Taft\u2019s ultimate aim was the Supreme Court. In 1902, a spot on that highest court opened up and Roosevelt floated the job to Taft. It was his for the taking.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The big man turned it down, claiming that his current position as governor of the Philippines wasn\u2019t done yet. There can be no doubt of Nellie\u2019s influence in that decision to hold out for something else, though. Throughout his career, she consistently pushed him to seek an ever higher office. So when President Roosevelt wanted Taft as his Secretary of War, he said yes to that position, ascending further up the political hierarchy, and becoming, in Roosevelt\u2019s own words, \u201cmy counsellor and adviser in all the great questions that come up.\u201d&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Beyond Nellie\u2019s influence, Roosevelt also eventually encouraged Will to follow in his footsteps to the White House and serve as caretaker to his legacy. Theodore did say, however, that \u201cthe equation of the man himself\u201d must be the primary factor in deciding what to do with one\u2019s life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of that good advice, a yielding Taft didn\u2019t want to let anybody down, and, riding on Roosevelt\u2019s wave of popularity, won the presidential election of 1908. Even though Nellie was \u201cfinally entirely in her element,\u201d Taft hated the job from the start. \u201cWithin hours of his election triumph,\u201d Goodwin writes, he \u201cwas already anguished that his nature was ill-suited to his new role.\u201d&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was a middling four years in office for William Howard Taft. Sadly, Nellie suffered a devastating stroke just 10 weeks into the term, which handicapped her for much of her husband\u2019s presidency. Without his beloved wife by his side, Taft was even more despondent about the job. Roosevelt, disappointed by his friend\u2019s performance as POTUS (saying of him, \u201che means well, but he means well feebly\u201d) rose from the ashes as a third-party candidate, coming in second place to Woodrow Wilson. Taft came in third and retired back to his home in Ohio, happy to put behind him the most miserable years of his life. Just about the only thing that came out of it, in popular memory, was that embarrassing bathtub rumor.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In 1921, Will finally got his chance to fulfill his dream when Chief Justice Edward White died. Fellow Republican and Ohioan Warren Harding awarded Taft the job, knowing it had been his lifelong ambition. On the day he was sworn in, Will said, \u201cThis is the greatest day of my life.\u201d It wasn\u2019t the most prestigious job in the land, but it was the one most suited to William Howard Taft. He relished every minute of it until his death in 1930.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_125069\" style=\"width: 493px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-125069\" class=\"wp-image-125069 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/default.jpg\" alt=\"william howard taft portrait as chief justice of the supreme court. \" width=\"483\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/default.jpg 483w, https:\/\/content.artofmanliness.com\/uploads\/2020\/09\/default-320x398.jpg 320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 483px) 100vw, 483px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-125069\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">William Howard Taft as Chief Justice of the Supreme Court. Notice how content he looks compared to the portrait above.<\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In my reading of Taft\u2019s life and career, I just felt sad for the poor fella. He could have had twenty extra years doing what he loved, but was pushed into something he knew he wouldn\u2019t thrive at nor enjoy. Sure, you can lay some blame on Nellie and Theodore for pushing the guy too hard, but there wasn\u2019t anything malicious in their intent. The relationships Taft had with both of them were mutually and authentically loving and caring.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rather, this is a classic example of someone <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/character\/advice\/dont-should-all-over-yourself\/\">playing the \u201cshould\u201d game<\/a> at the very highest levels of leadership. I can imagine Taft saying, \u201cI love Theodore and want to uphold his legacy; I should run for president,\u201d as well as, \u201cMy wife is my rock and I want her to be happy; I should run for president.\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/male-status-brain\/\">The visceral pull of status<\/a> likely played a role too; when he saw the brass ring dangling in front of him, he felt he should grab it &#8212; that he was <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">supposed <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">to grab it. In so doing, he put off his own happiness, his own fulfillment, for <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">decades<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Goodwin conveys this same sentiment:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Always plagued by procrastination and insecurity, Taft struggled to turn [his] intuitive emotional intelligence inward to access his own desires and use that knowledge to steer his life and career accordingly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can you relate?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The obvious corollary is with your career. Is social media\/family\/friends\/culture egging you into pursuing a life you don\u2019t really want?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Entrepreneurship certainly appears alluring online, but perhaps <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/dont-entrepreneur-4-ps-great-job\/\">you actually enjoy the less stressful, check-in\/check-out nature of your 9-5 job<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Going to college and working in an office might seem like the proper path to take, but maybe you\u2019d really rather go to a technical school and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/blue-collar-trades-career\/\">learn a blue collar trade<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might feel like you need to keep moving up the rungs of your company, but is shifting away from doing fieldwork to assuming a more managerial position really suited to your talents and desires?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Beyond just the professional realm of life, though, a man should pursue the things he truly likes elsewhere, too: hobbies, books (and other content\/media), recreation and fitness, etc.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just because Instagram goes crazy for craft beer doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/why-cheap-beer-is-still-awesome-and-5-you-should-enjoy-this-summer\/\">enjoy the cheap stuff<\/a>. Just because your book club is into Greek classics doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t read all the Jack Reacher novels your heart desires. Just because every other millennial worships at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/against-the-cult-of-travel-or-what-everyone-gets-wrong-about-the-hobbit\/\">the altar of international adventure travel<\/a> doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t be a homebody who enjoys regional road trips as much as anything else.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t be pushed into pursuing the career or hobby or idea that someone or something else has thrust upon you as the highest ideal.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rather than seeking out what <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">looks<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> great, or <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">seems<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> like it should be fulfilling, spend time getting to know your own temperament and your own likes. Find ways to pursue the Good that align with your native talents and intrinsic desires. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/articles\/motivation-over-discipline\/\">Live a life driven more by spontaneous motivation than self-flagellating discipline<\/a>. Throw off your Taftian insecurities and fully own and embrace what you personally enjoy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As Nietzsche said, \u201cBecome who you are.\u201d&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m in the midst of a project to read a biography of every president. With most of the men, there\u2019s a pretty clear sense that they were glad to give up the office after their term. 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