{"id":110889,"date":"2020-01-20T12:22:42","date_gmt":"2020-01-20T18:22:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=110889"},"modified":"2026-09-15T18:27:44","modified_gmt":"2026-09-15T23:27:44","slug":"how-to-know-if-you-can-trust-someone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/social\/social-skills\/how-to-know-if-you-can-trust-someone\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast #577: An FBI Agent’s 6 Signs for Sizing People Up"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every day, we have to make choices on whether we can trust someone or not. If we make the wrong choice, it could mean a failed relationship or business partnership and all the emotional and financial costs that follow.  <\/p>\n

My guest today has spent his career sizing people up in high stakes situations. His name is Robin Dreeke<\/a>, he spent two decades working as a behavioral analyst for the FBI, and in his new book, Sizing People Up: A Veteran FBI Agent’s User Manual for Behavior Prediction<\/em><\/a>, he shares the tips everyone can use in determining whether or not someone is trustworthy. <\/p>\n

We begin our conversation discussing how Robin’s latest book builds off the work he did in The Code of Trust<\/em><\/a> and the consequences of sizing people up incorrectly. Robin then shares the overarching framework he recommends using when you want to figure out if you can trust someone or not. We spend the rest of our conversation digging into the six specific signs you should look for when you’re figuring out if you want to enter into a personal or professional relationship with someone, and you’re trying to predict their future behavior. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Every day, we have to make choices on whether we can trust someone or not. If we make the wrong choice, it could mean a failed relationship or business partnership and all the emotional and financial costs that follow.   My guest today has spent his career sizing people up in high stakes situations. His name is Robin Dreeke, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":195123,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[156,42379,42293],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-110889","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-podcast","category-social","category-social-skills"],"featured_image_urls":{"large":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/577-538x280.png","medium_large":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/577-768x432.png","aom":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/577-372x230.png","reactor-320":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/577-320x180.png","reactor-640":"https:\/\/beta.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/577-640x360.png"},"yoast_head":"\nHow to Know If You Can Trust People | Art of Manliness<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Every day, we have to make choices\u00a0on whether we can trust someone\u00a0or not. 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